What's (self) Love Gotta Do With It?
- stephaniethespark
- Mar 4, 2023
- 2 min read
Too many times we have heard the old saying, "Just love yourself! Be your own best friend." But I can tell you from being in the mental health and personal growth field for over 30 years, it just isn't that easy.
So I hear in my office on the daily, "How do I do it? How can I really love myself more... or even begin to love myself a little."
It begins like all of our relationships, with a little intention followed by a follow through dose of commitment to growing the relationship by "showing up." If we started a new friendship with someone we wouldn't automatically trust them with our deepest darkest secrets, or ask them to start watching our 18 month old. We would have to work on cultivating trust.
The same is true for our relationship with ourselves.
When we start practicing self-love, it can begin by just making a commitment to yourself (start small) to show up for yourself each morning. Even 10-15 minutes is a great start. Get up and journal your gratitudes and let them marinate in your heart for a few moments, do some stretching or yoga, or some deep breath work. Really get behind your own eyes and into your own heart as you begin the day.
Develop a mantra. This is something you repeat over and over to yourself in the morning. It can be as easy as, "Today, I have my back." or "I am allowing myself to heal." or "Better every day!" These can be powerful phrases to hold in our awareness that start taking root in our being and become a reality for us.
Get a wall calendar. At the end of each day, instead of crossing the day off, put a heart on the day instead, because you have shown up for yourself in a loving way. It feels so good to look back at your week or your month and see all of that self love staring back at you!
Cultivating self love is like building a muscle. It's a daily process and the results are a stronger you, more fully ignited.
This post on self-love really resonates with me because I remember how much I neglected my own well-being during my final year of university. I was so burnt out that I eventually reached out to academic dissertation editing services just to take some of the pressure off and reclaim a bit of my sanity. It’s so important to remember that looking after yourself is just as vital as achieving your goals!
This post on self-love really resonated with me, especially the part about setting boundaries to protect our mental well-being. I remember a time when I was so burnt out by my schedule that I desperately searched for a way to take my online class cheap just to get an afternoon of rest without feeling guilty. Learning to prioritize ourselves is so important when the pressure of daily life starts to feel like too much to handle on our own!
I liked how this post talked about self-love and sitting with your own thoughts instead of just rushing through life. It made me think about a time I felt so stressed that I thought I’d pay to do my exam just to get it over with, but slowing down and breaking the work into small parts actually helped me understand more. Taking care of yourself can really make hard school things feel lighter.
The article explains self love and why seeing your own worth matters for how you show up in life and care for others. Last term when I had too much school work, I even had to pay someone to take my online course so I could finish everything and still make time to think about things like this that help you grow. It made me realize that taking care of yourself matters just as much as finishing tasks.
I read the article about self-love and it really made me think about how important it is to show up for yourself every day, even in small ways like journaling or stretching. I remember a time when I was super stressed with deadlines and had to rely on Last minute assignment helpers while also trying to carve out a few minutes each morning just for myself. It taught me that taking care of yourself and asking for help when needed go hand in hand, and both make life feel a little lighter.